Can Lesbian Fiction Have a Happy Ending?
You know, after starting this journey, I realized why Xena resonates so deeply within the lesbian community. Here we are in 2013 and there just aren’t a lot of models in the media for the lesbian community. Don’t we all want to fall in love? I remember reading Fried Green Tomatoes at the Whistle Stop Café and then watching the movie over and over. It was one of the first depictions I saw of two women who simply fell in love. And, of course; one met with a tragic, early death.
Even into my thirties there just were not a lot of happy models. Jessica Stein kissed her best friend and fell in love, only to leave her for a man. Kerry Weaver fell in love with Sandy Lopez on ER and the two had a child; only for firefighter Lopez to be killed, and Lopez’s family to take the baby. Boys on the Side told us that LOVE is not always about sex when Mary Louise Parker had to admit her emotions for Whoopi Goldberg’s character; only to die of AIDS. Willow Rosenberg found the love of her life on Buffy the Vampire Slayer, but alas; beloved Tara was shot and killed in their bedroom. And, of course several years before Willow and Tara thousands of lesbian fans watched as Xena met her violent end, leaving Gabrielle alone.
Some of these events in film and books are simply artistic. Drama is what sells. The problem is that there are SO few models of same gender relationships in the mainstream; that when the majority of relationships meet with a tragic end; it sends a heartbreaking and negative message to the gay and lesbian community. It IS one of the reasons that I decided to write the Alex and Cassidy series. Their relationship is FAR from perfect or easy. They will get bumped and bruised along the way. They will question their relationship, their individuality, and occasionally get sucked into adventurous drama…BUT they will remain TOGETHER.
I want to briefly say to those people who may be reading these stories; struggling with who you are, with acceptance; love is neither about gender nor is it about sex. The two are not mutually exclusive. Believe that love can happen no matter who you are or where you live. It doesn’t always have a fairy tale ending; but if it’s real; it’s worth the ride. Whoever you are and whomever you love…be proud and be hopeful. Life is a series of beginnings, not an inescapable series of endings.